1000 People = 1000 Wonders

Part One

Meliha Avdic

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Photo by Greg Rakozy on Unsplash

This is where having different folders on Medium would help. I intend to do a bunch of articles about the wonders of being a human. I’m still not sure how I’m going to connect them so that readers can find them easily, you know, like, if you’ve read part 11 and you’re interested in all the other parts that you don’t have to scroll through the whole list of my articles to find just these articles. There should be a way to find these articles easily. The best I can think of is to organize them on my website, so maybe that’s what I’ll do. It seems a bit silly to go from Medium to my website and then back to Medium, but that’s all I can think of. If anyone has better ideas, please feel free to share.

In these articles, I will pick one or two things that are human, talk about them, how rational or irrational they are, and just put them out there. Sometimes our mental health really depends on being honest with ourselves and each other. So I’ll pitch in my views. Who knows, maybe that will help.

The first wonder I’d like to talk about is: You think

I am sure we’ve all been told by friends, relatives, neighbours and complete strangers the ever so famous, international line that starts with the words “You think”. And then they inform you of what you think about yourself, about them, about a situation, or anything. But they tell you what you think.

Isn’t that amazing? Being told what you think. An outsider comes to tell you, to inform you of your own thoughts. How can we not see that as a great wonder? And since so many people have done it to me, I know that some people reading this have done it to someone else — naughty. Well, not always. Sometimes people can get it right, but that’s just lucky not a magical power of reading other people’s minds.

I am always amazed and shocked when someone looks at me sternly and says, “You think…” They get my attention, I have to admit. I’m always interested to hear what other people think I think. Although, it is also very disappointing to find how often they think I’m lying. I mean, if I’ve said that I think ‘A’ and you claim that I think ‘B’, and A and B are completely different, then clearly you’re calling me a liar.

Now, let’s just compare ‘You think’ — a statement, to ‘Do you think’ — a question. ‘Do you think’ does not assume you can read my mind. So why are we not using that more often? Why are we not questioning each other rather than jumping to conclusions?

I’d like to keep these really short, but please feel free to share your own experiences and views on the wonders of being a human.

BTW, 1000 people, 1000 wonders is a saying in Bosnian (hiljadu ljudi, hiljadu cudi), so I kind of borrowed the title.

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Meliha Avdic

Born in Bosnia, grew up in the UK-another war child, yes. Passionate about people and the state of society. A bit of a maverick. www.meliha.webador.co.uk